Now I know

I've seen countless cases of people getting attached only after they've only entered Uni (well that's kind of a load of BS, because there could jolly well be many more people getting attached in secondary school, JC, post-Uni), and I think I just sought out the exact reason why that is so.

Because we girls like guys that are not so our age.

Of course, I don't want to be burnt at the stake for saying that this is so for everyone, just wanna stress that majority of couples are as such. And what about those couples whom I know who are of the same age? Majority of them broke up. I could have done a survey and proved my point, but then I would be scrapping some old wounds and probably offend a few people, so I shall chuck the CNM mindset aside for awhile. And today's BBQ with secondary school friends further affirmed my claim; I couldn't hold a decent conversation with ANY of the guys! Even though we were hanging out and kicking each other's asses in Secondary school, I felt like I just experienced accelerated EQ growth during the time the guys were in NS. Wrong frequency, no common topic of interest, bad conversations. And this scene had been repeated for all the previous times I had gatherings with ex-classmates. Is this a curse?

People blame NS. They say it stuns the emotional growth of guys. They say it built brotherhood, but none of the stuff they need to face their female counterparts with after NS. And the cycle repeats itself. The chasm between the guy friends I have in Uni and the ex-classmates is so vast, it takes 2 years to echo back. Even Jack, who's always a little of a small kid, make the other guys my age look like thumb-sucking toddies. Now I know why I was able to cut myself off so cleanly from the secondary school clique crowd; most of them were guys.