Pensieve

It's been a while since I posted something pensive here. And it all started to hit me just the week before, when relationships of people around me started falling apart. So what is in for everyone in the game of love? Is your final destination one of conquest and domination, or a win-win situation? What's your objective?


Having seen dozens of couples fall in and out of love, it dawned upon me that in order for a relationship to work out, it can't simply be a one-sided affair of give, give, give or take, take, take. Love isn't rocket science, I believe, it's all about how much effort you'd want to channel into maintaining it. And while everyone loves differently, it all works out as a directly proportional equation of equity between both parties; being a guy doesn't mean you have to switch to macho-protective-dominant mode, while being a lady doesn't give you the right to throw petty hissyfits and make your guy carry your bag for you. Oh, and don't be a Yes Man. You can't please even your very own individual demand, let alone those of your partner's. Don't try to be everything to them; let them seek out their own solutions before they get the chance to approach you. Overly-helpful partners will only encourage more reliance and parasitism from their partners, and end up dying from exhaustion and overworking.

Most important thing of all - Sympathy klls. So don't try to play nurse to someone's broken heart by offering yours, because it'll probably breed another pair of broken hearts soon. You're not a charity organisation for broken hearts; You're there to love someone who truly deserves you.


As for me, it's no doubt that, at this point of time, I'm pretty much indulged upon by someone who truly loves me and whom I feel the same way about as well. And we'll only be working equally hard to pursue the future we both see each other in, no matter how many brick walls we'll run up against.